Tuesday, May 7, 2013

Room Mate Problems: Never-ending Alarm Clock

I think one of my favorite things when having break fast in the kitchen is hearing all the alarm clocks go off. It's almost like a morning bird song.



However, this becomes a lot less enjoyable when it's coming from your roommate's alarm clock when you want to sleep. Some people forget about their alarm clocks, leaving the alarm blaring while they're at class. Others simply struggle to wake up, snoozing for hours without considering the effect of their alarm on others.

Whatever the reason, if your roommate's alarms is impacting your morning ZZZs, here are some ways to approach your roommate so both of you can rest and wake up well.



Talk to your roommate


My first suggestion would be talking to your roommate about the problem. I'm always amazed by the way freshmen expect their roommate to magically know what they want. Take the time to talk to your roommate about your concern. Instead of getting directly at your needs, try to be a little friendlier about it. Pose it as a benefit to them.

For example:
"Hey, I noticed that you seem to be having trouble waking up in the morning. Is everything alright? Is it hell week for you?"
"I'm taking a stress management class and there's a section on sleeping. Sometimes your alarm clock goes off more than once. Would you want to read the section on relaxing wake up routines? "
"I'm trying this new alarm clock app on my phone; it does a gradient of sound to wake you up slowly. Do you want to try it? I hear you struggling to wake up sometimes and this might be worth a shot.

Comments like these are generally enough to draw attention to irritating behavior. Most considerate roommates would try out your advice, making an effort not to wake you up with their alarm.

In the case that talking to your room mate doesn't work, there's still a few things you can do.

Alarm after leaving


If the problem is that your roommate leaves their alarm on after leaving, suggest that they invest in an alarm that stops snoozes after an hour. Try reminding them the night before to turn off their alarm rather than just snoozing them. If it seems clear that your roommate isn't going to break their rude habit, ask your roommate to show you how to turn off their alarm.

Do not unplug their alarm. Unplugging their alarm will only irritate them and make them dislike you.

Can't wake up alarm


If your roommate just doesn't wake up, suggest a bed time for the room. With a set time that both of you are expected to be asleep, the roommate will likely be better rested and more easily woken.

Suggest trying a different alarm. I've noticed that having the same alarm for too long means that I learn how to turn it off or ignore it while still asleep. If you feel comfortable, offer to wake up your roommate.



No solution?

Try getting ear plugs if the problem persists.

Maybe your roommate has ignored all of your suggestions. It may suck to have to "give in" to your roommate on your extra minutes of sleep, but the alarm clock problem is fairly trivial. There are far worse roommate problems to have; stealing, for example.

If it really is bothering you and you absolutely can't abide ear plug, talk to your floor's RA or GRT. They can probably talk to your roommate to help them understand why this is so important to you.



Room Mate Problems: Never-ending Alarm Clock

I think one of my favorite things when having break fast in the kitchen is hearing all the alarm clocks go off. It's almost like a morning bird song.



However, this becomes a lot less enjoyable when it's coming from your roommate's alarm clock when you want to sleep. Some people forget about their alarm clocks, leaving the alarm blaring while they're at class. Others simply struggle to wake up, snoozing for hours without considering the effect of their alarm on others.


Whatever the reason, if your roommate's alarms is impacting your morning ZZZs, here are some ways to approach your roommate so both of you can rest and wake up well.


Saturday, May 4, 2013

Positivity: Spring Refresh

I want to see how my new year's resolutions have been going, possibly recommitting on the ones that aren't doing as well on.




Read more for the break down on how I've been doing!




  • Draw Every Day
I haven't been doing so well on this. But I have been drawing more often than last semester. I'm even nearly through with my sketch book. Overall, I think that this goal might need to be broken down a little bit more so that I can measure my progress on it.
  • Blog Post Weekly
I have been doing this. In fact, I've been blogging twice weekly. I think that I may step it up to three times a week in a month or so. Blogging is really rewarding and works well with my self reflection. While I may not have a lot of readers now, I feel accountable writing down what I have and haven't done.
  • Work Out
This semester I'll be taking a yoga and pilates class this term. I'm a little worried about the pilates, but I'll have a friend with me. I'm going to be trying to attend the Friday Concourse Yoga. I tried to have a work out buddy for working out in my dorm, but we were stymied by conflicting schedules, so I may just work out on my own in the Z-center.
  • Cook and Pack Lunches
I've actually been been staying in the dorm for lunch, so I haven't been having to pack up. I do think that I should be cooking more. It'll be easier to do this as the weather warms up and grocery shopping becomes less of a chore.
  • Confidence Increase
Maybe my confidence has increased. Seems like I am more content with myself, most likely due to the self reflection I've been focusing on. I feel much happier with the choices that I've been making, especially since it seems like I'm moving closer to my goal.
  • Morning Yoga
Not too well on this resolution. I'm going to re-commit to this for the spring. I think this will also help with the difficulty I have getting out of bed. This links back to the working out resolution, so hopefully they'll rise together. 
  • Talk to Ivanna x2 weekly
I have been doing very well on this. I write a letter every week and usually make a phone call or text throughout the week. To step up the commitment, I want to start taking a photo once a week to text to her which would also work well for blogging.
  • Drink 8 cups of water / day
While I may not be all the way up to 8 cups a day, I have consistently been drinking water before going the sleep and right after waking up. I think I'm averaging 6 cups a day, focused in the evening. To be quite honest, I feel like I need to drink far more than 8 cups a day. 
  • Keep My Room Clean
Victory! My room has actually been getting cleaner and neater. I emptied and condensed a number of things, leading to less clutter overall. If I can keep this up for the spring, I may reward myself by buying another small dresser for my beauty supplies and pajamas.


Overall, I feel that I've been doing well on my new year's resolutions. I am adding a few more resolutions, stepping it up a little bit.

Positivity: Spring Refresh

I want to see how my new year's resolutions have been going, possibly recommitting on the ones that aren't doing as well on.




Read more for the break down on how I've been doing!


Wednesday, May 1, 2013

Drifting From Your Values: Safe Space

When you go to college, it may be the first time that you encounter opinions radically different from your own. At the very least, college will likely be the first time that you don't have your home to return to; your parents and their support network likely won't be there in your dorm room to reassure you after a day of facing unfamiliar values. Losing that safe recuperating space can be really tough and stressful to deal with, especially when you want to replenish yourself.

Here are some ideas to find a safe space to refocus on your values.

Your room


Talk to your roommate to make sure that your room is a good place to recoup after a day. Having a safe place to return to refresh yourself and your values is really important. For example, if you don't agree with the college party scene, talk to your roommate about not playing loud house music late at night. Or if you don't believe in premarital sex, talk to your roommate about respecting your blissful ignorance of the sex when she "sexiles" you.

Recognize that you're not going to get everything you want from your roommate. Likely, the two of you will come to a compromise that isn't perfect but better than none at all.

Safe Spaces on Campus


If your room can't be a safe space, see if you can find a safe space on campus. A lot of colleges have women only safe spaces. There are also LGBTQ friendly spaces cropping up in more and more campuses; it's so great to see this time of progress. For religious folk, your faith probably has an area church and your campus probably has an interfaith chapel.  You can read this Tech article about the value of the MIT Women's Lounge. MIT also has the Rainbow Lounge.

Library 


I often find that reserving library study room for a few hours of self-contemplation is a good way to refresh and recenter myself. Sometimes I bring a book that describes my values; other times I just think about what has been drifting me from what I want to do. It's a very difficult process to return to what you hold in your heart when everyone else seems to be doing something different.

You may have a different group of friends, with different values, from different places. I know that I felt encouraged to try things I'd never even heard of before coming to MIT; some of the things I ended up really liking, while others I absolutely hated.

Drifting From Your Values: Safe Space

When you go to college, it may be the first time that you encounter opinions radically different from your own. At the very least, college will likely be the first time that you don't have your home to return to; your parents and their support network likely won't be there in your dorm room to reassure you after a day of facing unfamiliar values. Losing that safe recuperating space can be really tough and stressful to deal with, especially when you want to replenish yourself.

Here are some ideas to find a safe space to refocus on your values.

Tuesday, April 30, 2013

Free Sock Organizers: Shoe Boxes

I have a ton of winter socks: long socks, fuzzy socks, wool socks, ankle socks. I didn't want to spend any money to organize them, so I wanted a free solution.




Shoe boxes are great to organize socks. They're the right size for socks and still short enough to fit into the drawers of my dresser.

For more crafty folks, the boxes can be covered in scrapbooking or other colored paper for extra decoration.